Why It’s Not Just About Skydiving or Exotic Trips

By Sanuthi Herath

When most people hear the term 'bucket list', their minds jump straight to daredevil adventures
like skydiving, bungee jumping, or travelling to far-flung places such as Bali or the Swiss Alps.
Social media has reinforced this image, showcasing picture-perfect shots of people crossing off
dramatic, once-in-a-lifetime experiences. But this narrow view creates a myth: that a bucket list
is only valid if it’s filled with extreme thrills and exotic journeys. In reality, bucket lists are far
more personal, have more variety and are more meaningful than we often give them credit for.

Myth 1: It Has to Be Extreme

One of the most persistent myths is that your bucket list should include adrenaline-pumping
activities. While skydiving, bungee jumping, mountain climbing, or dining in a hot air balloon way
up in the sky may be on some people’s lists, they don’t have to be on yours. In fact, a bucket list
that only reflects what looks impressive on social media and gives adrenaline rushes may not
bring genuine fulfilment. For some, the real challenge might be learning to play a musical
instrument, baking bread from scratch, or completing an educational goal. These seemingly
mundane-looking goals can carry just as much weight because they reflect personal growth and
quiet strength.

Myth 2: It’s Only About Travel

Travel often dominates bucket list conversations, but this is another misconception. Yes, visiting
the Eiffel Tower or seeing the Northern Lights can be magical, but bucket lists can include
achievements or milestones too. I've crossed things like writing an E-book, starting a garden
and reconnecting with an old friend from my bucket list. For many people, including me, bucket
list items are deeply rooted in relationships, creativity, self-discovery and self-expression.

Myth 3: It’s for Later in Life

Bucket lists are frequently associated with older adults who want to experience certain things
before 'kicking the bucket,' as they say. But waiting until retirement or a health scare to pursue
your dreams is limiting. It gives you more anxiety and pressure to have life experiences which
you may not even enjoy in the race to finish. Bucket lists can be ongoing, evolving, and woven
into everyday life at any age. A 20-year-old might want to take up knitting, while a 40-year-old
could focus on starting a small business or new hobby. The point isn’t age, it’s intention.

Myth 4: It Must Be Expensive

Another myth is that meaningful bucket list experiences require deep pockets. Luxury cruises,
exclusive Safaris and travelling around the world for months at a time might appeal to some, but

many goals cost little to nothing. Writing poetry, watching every film and TV show by a favourite
director, or simply achieving more or even health goals can be life-changing experiences that
don’t break the bank. Often, the most powerful items on a bucket list are time and attention, not
money.

Myth 5: It Has to Impress Everyone

The most harmful myth of all is that a bucket list should be impressive to everyone. When we
build lists based on outside validation or select from a glorified list, we risk missing what truly
matters. A list filled with authentic desires - no matter how simple - will always be more
rewarding and satisfying than one crafted for likes and boasting rights. If your dream is to learn
how to make your grandmother’s recipes pass through generations or spend a summer
stargazing from your garden, that is just as valid as trekking through Machu Picchu.

Reframing the Bucket List

At its core, a bucket list is about intention. It’s a way of pausing to ask: What do I really want to
experience, learn, or create in my lifetime? What will make me happy and fulfilled? The answer
could be big or small, thrilling or content. The magic lies in shaping a list that’s authentic to you.
So, while skydiving and exotic trips can be incredible, they aren’t the whole story. A bucket list is
less about chasing the extraordinary and more about honouring the ordinary moments that
make life meaningful for you.